Welcome! I'm glad you're here...

The right-off-the-bat disclaimer? I'm not married. I'm also not Miss Manners.

The first part looks like it might change soon (we picked out the ring this weekend) and the second is more of an aspiration. In the last year I've attended two "family" weddings, and in the next month I'm heading off to two more. The question that I'm left with is

WHAT is UP with WEDDINGS?

Why do sane, practical women become total lunatics over brightly-colored-taffeta? How can anyone register for a $60.00 bathmat? Why does EVERY SINGLE ENGAGEMENT RING look EXACTLY like the one next to it? Why is everything so expensive? Finally....where did the idea go that the wedding is about two people turning into one family, and celebrating the people that brought them there and shared the journey with them?

More to the point: am I going to turn into one of Those Brides?

I have two sources of wedding advice:
Emily Post

I've read the 1922 "Etiquette" cover to cover over and over and its section on weddings inspires me by its lack of mention of registries, "the 4 Cs!", Bridal showers or cash bars...

My Father

My parents have been married for more than 30 years. The only piece of wedding advice my father has ever given is the following "Weddings are not important. Marriage is important"

So I'm writing this blog to remind myself of just that...and hoping to solve some of the wedding conundrums along the way...